TGIF- He’s Not Little Anymore
You’ll understand where today’s creativity comes from after I tell you the latest….
First, I love my kids the same. Let’s get that right out the door. But what is it about boys and their mama’s???
I’ve got a heart breaker for you today. I needed an entire box of tissues for this one. It wasn’t pretty.
So the kids are back in school and Brandon is a new freshman.
If there is one sacred time in our house it’s dinner time. It’s where we gather. It’s where we can chat and listen about each other’s day. It’s where we pray together.
Alexis doesn’t always get to sit and eat with us due to her gymnastics schedule but no worries… we hear her talking ALL the time. *wink*
The other day at the table Brandon was discussing his new found friends at the high school. He was telling us all about the “hot” girls, too. One of them started talking to him. If you could only see the smile on his face- priceless!
Of course this mama bear started getting nosy and I also heard that homecoming was coming soon. I remember those fun times like they were yesterday. I loved high school.
This is where the story went downhill and my heart is just crushed.
When I asked Brandon about homecoming he looked at me and said, “Mom, really? Look at me! I wear glasses, I wear braces and I’m not that hot guy. I’m a nerd!”
I have to breathe for a minute. Truly this crushed my heart because I never knew how lacking his self confidence was. Never. EVER.
*Just so you know I held all tears back until I was alone and I could have that good ugly cry.*
I was heartbroken that he felt this way about himself.
I knew we had some typical boy issues that we needed to get a handle on such as:
- showers longer than 5 seconds.
- shampoo needs to be rinsed out so you don’t look like a grease blob.
- deodorant is meant to be worn, not a counter top decoration
- a comb is a tool to use on your hair…
Anyone with teenage boys or grown boys? Does this REALLY get better??
All of these are typical 14 yr old issues… fixable at least, right? All of which could probably help the self confidence too, right?
Of course I said to him, “Really B? You feel this way?” He answered quickly with yes! After telling him I thought he was out of his mind and that he was the cutest guy I know besides his daddy, I could tell he wasn’t buying any of it and he quickly told me so.
I know this is normal stuff for teenagers to feel but I didn’t think my kid would feel this way. He is so darn cute. He is so funny and he is SO SO lovable. He still hugs and kisses me in front of other kids. He doesn’t worry about that kinda stuff. He is that lovable.
After we left the dinner table and I had my ugly cry, I was on a mission.
I told Brandon he was getting a make over.
I also went over the main rules of boyhood above. “Son, a shower should take you longer than 5 seconds and your hair should be wet when you come out of the shower!” Seriously, he has showered and come out with DRY hair. When asked why it was dry he says… “I don’t know?” <REALLY??>
Can anyone relate to this?
Just to be clear… I’m not looking for him to be the most popular and personally do not want girls falling all over him. I just want him to feel good about himself. It’s time to uplift him.
This is where my card comes in and I’m killing 2 birds with ONE stone.
I’ve also noticed that his confidence level in his school abilities has decreased. He is second guessing his choice to be in the IB program. I thought I would boost his confidence a bit with a card. He has a test coming up so I thought I would give him a little pep talk within the card. When making this I had the mind of a teenager. Keep it simple and keep it manly. I think I crushed it. What do you think?
I’ve also been leaving both of them uplifting mama quotes on post it notes on their bathroom mirrors. We did this when Russ was depolyed and the kids loved it. They still do. Something very simple but filled with love.
It’s a challenge too…
I’m multi tasking this week (like all weeks) and this card fit perfectly for the challenge this week for the TGIF challenge. It’s time to mash up all the projects for the month and put something together. Please check out what the other designers have created and the challenge HERE. I hope you participate too.
P.S. I’ll keep you posted on the boy. Today he was fitted for contacts. Sigh… he looks so good and he’s so proud of them.
Have a FANTASTIC weekend.