The Joys of Parenting!
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but parenting is not always a joy.
This week has been tough with my teenagers. Lucky for them they are cute!
You might be new to my blog and don’t let this title scare you. I have something crafty and fun to share at the end of this post.
Let Them Fall
Over the last few months, Brandon has been struggling with one particular class, Honors Algebra 2. I was watching his grades and asking him frequently what plan he had in place to get help. I even went as far as contacting the teacher about tutoring. However, Brandon felt like he could handle this struggle on his own. That’s when I watched him fall flat on his face. It was time he learned the hard way.
Don’t get me wrong. This was not an easy task on my part. I don’t particularly enjoy watching my kids fail at something, but when they seem to know EVERYTHING… it was time to let him be in control so he could finally see I’m not as stupid as he thinks.
Taking the Easy Road
This week Brandon approached Russ and I that he was going to drop out of Honors Algebra 2 and take the regular Algebra 2. I, as well as the school counselor, might have considered this an option if he had done the class assignments and showed an ounce of effort. Sadly, not the case and Brandon was sure his idea of switching classes was EASY PEASY.
Not so fast Mister! The school counselor called me, and we both chatted that he is SUPER smart and the underlying problem is not spending an ounce of time on this class. It appears the X-box was slightly hindering his attention.
The Meet Up!
I would be lying if I told you I wasn’t disappointed. When parenting issues come up, I immediately think about the things I could have done differently. I picked up Brandon at the bus stop and decided to take him to Starbucks. I knew I couldn’t get CRAY CRAY in public. This was good for both of us.
He was mopey because his idea of switching classes was not happening. Obviously, this was ALL my fault. I let him spill his guts. I shut my mouth (never happens) and listened. Once he was done telling me how he should be able to switch classes, tutoring was a lost cause, and he was only going to fail… I stepped in.
When ZERO effort is applied, failure is going to happen. Had my kid showed a little effort he wouldn’t be in this pickle. But just like many adults I know, he wanted to QUIT because it didn’t go his way. If I quit, I can take the easy way out. That suited him fine. Dang! Only 15 and just like that you want the easy road? WHERE did you learn this, son?
Thankfully we were in a public setting. It was a genius moment on my part.
Here is the problem, there is no easy way. Life is not easy and quitting is not an option!
Over and over Brandon kept telling me he failed. In my eyes failing was changing that class when you never put an ounce of effort into it. What happened to FIGHTING for something you want? Even if we do fail at the task, we learn to get back up and start over.
Obviously, Brandon did not get the solution he was hoping for. Switching classes was not an option. Had he made an effort, but struggled that would have been an entirely different situation. However, you chose the easy road of NOT doing anything and expecting to get off easy.
Our house will be quiet with the gaming console in the off position for a little while. Well, until we see an improvement in the grades and attitude. Brandon seems to think the gaming community could end due to his parents whacko thinking. I guess time will tell.
Meanwhile… I’ll be on tutoring pick up duty on Wednesdays and watching my young man learn how to gain control of his work ethic.
Alexis and I are heading to another gymnastics meet. There is nothing better than spending a car ride with my daughter as she makes her selfies into strawberry, dog, and a fox face at least 100x and then falls asleep. YAY me.
Parenting has not been a joy this week, but I love them more than they will ever understand. While they may think I’m an awful parent (this was said earlier this week) I will march on and know that I’m developing kinder, hard working human beings. Life is not about taking the easy road. They must learn to try and if you don’t succeed, try again. Don’t give up!
Big Monster Hugs
This card couldn’t be more perfect! Despite Brandon being angry over the situation, he is loved. A giant monster hug will be perfect for him. I created this card using the Yummy in My Tummy stamp set.
Tips & Tricks
- Create the large polka dot background by using the center piece of rubber in the Monster’s belly. I used Pool Party and Smoky Slate ink.
- The monster was stamped onto Watercolor Paper and colored using the Aqua Painter.
- Download the instructions to create this card HERE.
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