Chest Out, Chin Up!
Tonight’s words of advice to my teenagers-Chest out, Chin up!
Words I heard 100 times tonight while watching my daughter at gymnastics… four hours worth.
It wasn’t until we got in the car to come home that these words resonated a different meaning to me.
Attitude is Everything
Recently I took a leap of faith and switched my daughter to a new gym.
We left a gym that was a part of our lives for 3 years.
The reasons for leaving were many. Although a huge change and many sacrifices will be made, in my heart I know this was a change that needed to happen.
It wasn’t until the ride home however that I needed to give my daughter a real heart to heart.
As I was watching her tonight I could tell that she wasn’t giving her all in a sport she loves so much. Granted, she hasn’t been feeling well, and maybe she was tired. However, she has always been quick to complain about everything around her being the problem but not looking deep inside herself to find that the problem lies within her.
GASP! You might be thinking I’m a terrible mother by saying this. The truth is, she needed to hear the truth.
Moving to the new gym she could see that her skill level was behind. Her quick answer was to blame everyone at the last gym.
I could only chuckle because isn’t this the answer for many? If something isn’t working right it couldn’t be me? It must be THEM.
The truth is she’s not giving it 100%. What can you expect?
The REAL Truth
Maybe I’m way off base in my thinking and let me preface this is my personal opinion and what I see in relation to my own children… smart phones in my kids hands are creating lazy, low self esteem, attitude monsters.
My kids have become so dependent on this little device and it’s causing more problems than I ever imagined.
- pure and simple laziness
- lack of self confidence
- attitude problems
Let me explain my issues… because it all ties into Chest out, Chin Up and believe it or not it ties into my stamping world as well.
My heart to heart with my daughter came to life this evening because of these very things I have written above.
My girl loves to lay on her bed and do absolutely nothing but watch YouTube video after YouTube video. Resulting in ZILCH effort on her part of actually getting something done. Brandon is in the same boat.
Tonight as I watched her on the bars, her arm strength was ZERO. Yet she has no time to gain strength in her upper arms at home because she is sitting on her bed, watching a video of someone else gaining strength in their arms. Not kidding.
When I explained that it would take work to build up her arm muscles, you would have thought I had 4 eyes and spikes coming out of my head. I was immediately the worst mom ever. The truth was hurting. There was no way this could be her fault.
Lack of Self Confidence
I’m not bragging, but my kids are smart individuals. Honestly, I know for a fact it is not from my side of the gene pool. I am amazed at the intelligence of my kids. BUT… they lack every bit of self confidence they should have.
I hear the “I can’t do that…” more times that I can tell you. When in fact I know they can.
Why would a smart phone tie into this you might ask?
I thought about myself. When I look on Pinterest, or YouTube many times I feel less than a stellar human after seeing the amazing things people make or do.
I won’t tell you the countless Pinterest recipes I’ve tried and ruined and I can promise DID NOT come out looking like it did in the picture.
Don’t get me wrong. Please hear me out… I love both of these sites. But can I tell you there are times when I watch or see something and I feel like a ninny because I can’t do the things these people do?
A perfect example would be a blogger I follow who posts the most beautiful pictures of her home all decked in WHITE and she has 4 beautiful children dressed to the nines every single day. She’s as big as a stick and there is NEVER a mess.
When I first started following her I was amazed at her ability to keep her “photographed” home so clean and tidy with 4 children. I felt like a lazy mom knowing I had a pile of dirty dishes waiting, nothing even planned to cook and there was nothing pretty to photograph around me. AND definitely nothing WHITE.
Then it hit me…
My “Something is not right” ticker went off in my head.
Keep it REAL
I am guessing she too has dirty dishes. Behind that camera she is in her pajamas, not showered in a few days and one of her kids is wearing a diaper soaked to the gills. I mean really….
But you see how quickly I lost self confidence in myself?
Again, maybe I’m totally off base… but I feel like with my kids noses in a smart phone seeing all the perfection there is NO way they can meet the expectations of what they see.
Let’s Not Forget Attitude- It’s EVERYTHING!
It wasn’t until the handy little smart phone landed in my kids hands when the attitudes started flying. I’m not talking about a disrespectful attitude. I’m talking about complaining, whining and the constant… I can’t do that syndrome.
It was the basis for my entire conversation tonight with my daughter.
Attitude is everything. When we tell ourselves we can’t do something it will NOT be done. PERIOD.
If you think you can’t, you won’t.
I have spoken these words for years with my own team of great women. If your attitude is in the toilet, your business is in the toilet. If you think you can’t stamp, you will probably never stamp. If you compare yourself to others it takes away all the joy you had for something.
Isn’t it amazing that when we want something SO bad, we will move a mountain to make things happen?
That’s my way of thinking, because attitude is everything. If there is something out there that I want to do, or a new thing I want to try, I will work HARD to make it work.
Ahhh… Hard WORK. That was the underlying truth that came out tonight. Sometimes it takes hard work to see results.
Chest Out, Chin Up!
Tonight as I summed up my little heart to heart with my daughter my last words were- Chest Out, Chin Up!
In other words, stand tall with confidence and the right attitude. Keep your chin up in all the things you do. Yes, you will have bad days and many falls. The idea is to keep getting up and keep working hard. You will soon see the results.
Obviously I need a quick fix on removing my kids smart phones from their sweet little hands too.
We can move mountains and accomplish great things with hard work.
If you are a crafter and you are struggling, I did too. I kept working hard at it. Really hard!
One Last Thing…
I could never leave without sharing a little something I created. It’s not my favorite card at all, and it’s exactly why I’m going to share it. Plus it had a mountain on the card and totally fit my conversation. We can move mountains if we try and try again. Don’t give up and keep working hard.
Now, I really do have dirty dishes in the sink, laundry all over my living room floor and my stamp room looks like a storm rolled through. I’m NOT kidding and keeping it REAL.
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